I’m fairly active on Quora and recently there was a questioner who asked if you let your cats push you around (because her cat forces her to wake up, turn on the bathroom faucet, and stay there until the cat is done). Since my answer gained some popularity and could be helpful to others, I thought I would share:
I understand where you are coming from and I don’t want to minimize your situation, but this sounds absolutely adorable. You clearly are a nice person and it sounds like you have a good heart and really love your cat.
What I would say is that a good way to look at your cat is by looking at it as a little child—they simply don’t understand what is going on lots of times, and if you give in or reward their behavior then they will repeat it and expect it going forward. They have little baby brains, but with a wild, independent streak. They can’t tell you what to do, and they aren’t your master; you are their master and parent, you are responsible for them, and you can change and control their behavior by using effective cat-training techniques (which I would google if I were you) like firmly saying “no” and giving him a little bop on the nose when he demands his 3am bathroom-sink-time. While doing this, consider giving your cat love in other ways so that you will not feel so guilty denying his other, unreasonable demands.
Thanks for reading 🙂